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Last week I took the boys shopping.

But this wasn't just another trip to the shops.

They'd spent the year saving their money...

3 Jars: Save for something big, Splurge on whatever they like, Give to church, charities, fundraisers.

And now they finally got to use the SAVE Jar and spend some of it on things they'd been wanting.

A little money for something special.

A little splurge money.

And naturally the splurge money went to...

Candy. Gum. And ridiculously big bottles of Powerade. 😂

Because priorities... right?

But somewhere in the middle of that shopping trip...

Something happened that made me one proud dad.

And it reminded me of just how much I've changed.

Growing up, we didn't have much financially.

My parents worked hard to give us what we needed (not always what we wanted).

And I'll always be grateful for that.

But managing money responsibly wasn't something I really understood when I was younger.

So when I started earning my own money?

I did some pretty reckless shit...

Spent more than I made.

Maxed out credit cards.

Bought a car I probably had no business buying.

No savings.

No investments.

Just money coming in...

And somehow disappearing even faster...

Fuck me.

Looking back, some of those decisions were expensive lessons.

Then one day...

I picked up a simple book about money.

Nothing fancy.

No complicated financial strategies.

Just practical lessons about managing what you earn.

And here's the important part:

I actually applied what I read.

Slowly, things started changing.

I became more intentional.

Started making better decisions.

And eventually worked my way out of crippling debt.

That book made such an impact on me that I later gifted it to Nadine and my sister.

And when the boys were old enough...

I bought them the kids' version too.

Because there was something I desperately wanted to do differently.

I wanted them to start learning lessons at eight that took me years and a whole lot of debt to understand.

Now, don't get me wrong.

I haven't got the whole financial game figured out.

Far from it.

I'm still learning.

Still making mistakes.

Still building.

But I don't need to have everything mastered before I can pass on something valuable to my kids.

And that brings me back to last week's shopping trip.

The boys had their money.

They knew what they wanted.

They were excited AF to finally spend some of what they'd saved.

But then something pretty cool happened.

They realised there was a bigger game they both wanted.

Something they could enjoy together.

Only instead of each buying something separately...

They started talking.

Discussing.

Negotiating.

And eventually decided to combine money from their savings jars to buy it together.

I stood there watching them figure it out.

Two little boys.

Making a decision about something they'd worked and waited for.

And I couldn't help but smile.

Because it wasn't really about the game.

It was about what they were learning along the way.

Patience.

Saving.

Making choices.

Understanding that money has limits.

Working together.

Deciding what matters enough to spend on.

And hopefully...

Learning that you don't need to spend every dollar simply because you've got it.

None of those lessons appeared overnight.

They were built.

A little money saved.

A conversation.

A decision.

A mistake.

Another lesson.

Layer by layer.

And the more I thought about it...

The more I realised this is how almost everything meaningful in life gets built.

Your health.

Your marriage.

Your finances.

Your career.

Your faith.

Your character.

Your family.

Success isn't one big decision.

It's layers of smaller ones.

The workout you completed.

The money you didn't spend.

The book you read.

The difficult conversation you finally had.

The promise you kept.

The mistake you learned from.

The time you chose to spend with your kids.

Another layer.

Then another.

Then another.

But here's where we get impatient.

We expect the result before we've given the process enough time.

You train for two weeks...

And wonder why your body hasn't transformed!?!

You start saving...

And get frustrated because your bank balance isn't impressive yet!?!

You try to become a more present parent...

And think you've failed because you lost your patience yesterday!?!

We want the entire structure...

After laying three fuckin bricks.

But that's not how it works.

You don't build a strong body with one workout.

You don't build financial stability with one deposit.

And you don't build a strong family with one beautiful Saturday afternoon.

You build them through what you repeatedly do.

Especially when nobody's watching.

And this is the part that really got me.

My boys are learning from the decisions I make today.

Not just what I tell them.

What I do.

How I handle money.

How I respond to stress.

How I treat their mom.

How I look after my health.

How I handle mistakes.

How I follow through on commitments.

Whether I realise it or not...

I'm giving them a blueprint.

And while I can't protect them from every mistake they'll ever make...

Maybe I can help them avoid a few of the ones that cost me so much.

Maybe I can give them a stronger foundation to build from.

Not by pretending I've got life figured out.

But by sharing what I've learned...

And trying to live it myself.

That's what I want you to think about this week.

Especially if you're a parent.

What lessons are your kids learning from the life you're living?

Are they seeing someone who looks after their health?

Someone who takes responsibility?

Someone who keeps learning?

Someone who makes mistakes and gets back up?

Someone who understands that the best things in life take time to build?

Because the beautiful thing is...

You don't need to have it all figured out.

You don't need to be debt-free.

You don't need to be in the best shape of your life.

You don't need to be the perfect husband, wife, mom or dad.

You just need to be willing to build something better than yesterday.

One decision.

One conversation.

One lesson.

One day at a time.

Last week, my boys walked out of that shop with a game they were excited to play together.

And a few treats, of course. 😂

But I walked out with something else.

A reminder that some of the most meaningful progress in life doesn't show up on a scale...

Or in a bank account...

Or in a progress photo.

Sometimes...

It shows up in the decisions your children start making for themselves.

And maybe that's one of the greatest returns on all the work we're putting in.

Not just building a better life for ourselves.

But giving the next generation a stronger foundation to start from.

Elevate yourself.

Elevate your lil empire.

Elevate the next generation.

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And honestly, I’ve changed a lot in those five years: as a husband, a dad and a coach.

I wanted this version to reflect that growth.

I’ve stripped it back and become much more deliberate about what I’m asking you to do, why it matters and how it fits into your life.

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Recipe of the Week

ROASTED BUTTERNUT SQUASH, PECAN & EGG

Serves 2

1 medium butternut squash,

about 1½ to 2 lbs.

1 tbsp. olive oil

2 eggs

salt & pepper

⅛ tsp. ground nutmeg

2 tbsp. chopped pecans, optional

What you need to do

Preheat the oven to 400 F (200 C). Prepare a baking sheet lined with aluminum foil.

Cut the butternut squash in half lengthwise and use a large spoon to remove the seeds.

Brush the cut side of the squash with olive oil and place it cut side down on the baking sheet.

Place the squash into the oven and roast for 20 minutes. Remove the squash from the oven, flip it over and carefully crack an egg into

each hole. Season with salt, black pepper and nutmeg, then return to the oven and roast for a further 20 minutes.

Once cooked, remove from the oven, garnish with chopped pecans and serve.

Question of the Week

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